Came home the other day from work, and Mrs. 39 Months met me with the news. “John is in the hospital.”
John is one of our close friends in the area, and someone I have known for almost 30 years. We are the same age, and have many of the same interests, though lately his crafts and interests have tended to mirror more of what Mrs. 39 Months enjoys making.
John has been married for 20+ years, and while it has its difficulties, you can tell he loves his wife. Unfortunately, her health has deteriorated over the last five years to the point that she can barely walk for any length of time. This precludes a lot of activities and forces John to do a lot more work around the house, just to take care of her. She is under a doctor’s care for her ailments, and she does work to get better, but it is a struggle. John is a “giver” and while he complains about it at time, I think he enjoys the role of “white knight.”
Recently John’s allergies kicked up and got rather bad. He ended up overextending himself, and in the end, had to go to the hospital because he had come down with a severe case of bronchitis. This left him so weak he could barely move, and at the same time, he was not around to take care of his wife (her daughter assisted a bit).
We took the opportunity to go visit him for a couple of hours last night. He was still weak, and was probably going to be in the hospital for at least 2-3 more days. He knew he needed to rest, but worried that when he went home, he would end up exhausting himself with taking care of his wife. All we could do was volunteer to help, and let him know we were there for him.
It is interesting, as you get older. You realize that friends and family are the most important thing in your life. With FI, you can try to find more time for them, especially if they need it.
Mr. 39 months